Have you ever wondered why you or other people always go back to their ex’s or past lovers? And why couples that are terrible for each other but can’t seperate? I am about to explain why, scientifically!
You know that feeling you get all over your body when you like someone, or the feeling when you touch someone really attractive? Well, that feeling that you felt is ‘Oxytocin’. Sometimes called the “love hormone”. It is the feeling that you get when you first liked someone, held hands, kissed, & had sex. It is the same chemical released when having an orgasm.
Doctors say the inability to secrete oxytocin is linked to sociopathy, psychopathy, narcissism and general manipulativeness. They also say Oxytocin evokes feelings of contentment, reductions in anxiety, and feelings of calmness and security around the mate. Basically, its purpose is to create a psychological bond to the person responsible for the release of Oxytocin. The more that is released the more you are bonded.
Oxytocin is most commonly secreted throughout your body when you have touched with a hint of sexual intent. Studies have found that during a sexual orgasm there is a chemical storm in the body of Oxytocin – in both men and women. Sex creates a new reality to the mind. The contact of sex unleashes a neural storm unlike anything else except major trauma.
This is also the same chemical that women experience during childbirth. In fact childbirth, is the largest dosage of Oxytocin a woman will experience in her lifetime, even more than an orgasm. Hence, the strong bond a mother has with her child. Physical head trauma is the only time a man will experience Oxytocin flow in his brain more than an orgasm.
The power of Oxytocin loses its effectiveness over time, like velcro. Which is the reason many times you may know or hear of someone that has had many lovers seem incapable of love, because in deed they are! This also becomes a problem for males that find themselves addicted to porn. It defects the impulse control that is in the frontal part of the brain, in which the only way they can feel Oxytocin or ‘turned on’ is with porn and not with a real woman.
So back to the questions at the beginning; couples that are terrible for each other but can’t separate. It’s because sex has done its job. That’s why breakups for couples that have had sex are immensely hard. With a breakup like this it is a physical detox of the love drug. Many will experience the same side effects of a drug detox such as: Nausea, Vomiting, Diarrhea, Sleeplessness, Confusion, Agitation, Depression, Anxiety, and Behavioral changes.