So maybe you just had the talk and the two of you are no longer together. I know the feeling and it sucks! Studies suggest the psychological pain of a break up hurts just as much as physical injury. So I know it hurts, and also I know none of my words can make you feel better, but your actions to my words will make you feel better! You must decide if you want to be sentimental and dwell on thinking about the one you lost, and feel what should only be “natural”, and be depressed or you can consciously make the choice that you are not going to think of her at all and move on and feel GREAT! Now the best way to deal with this is just accept what happen. Think of what you did wrong and how you are going to change for the better. Once you have done that, get rid of the every thought of your past relationship. If you never think of what you lost, will you ever have the feeling of loss or rejection? The answer is of course not! Delete her out of your life that means her number, emails, texts, and etc. If you are thinking no way, I may still have a chance with her. STOP, you can always get that stuff back anyways if you ever ‘really’ needed it. So right now pull out your phone and delete her number- just do it! Depending on how the break up was delete, block or unsubscribe her on Facebook.
Now go get some! You’ve heard the old saying; “the best way to get over someone is to find someone new”. Go on as many dates as you can after your break up, don’t be too picky on these dates. This time period is not where you try to get the hottest and hardest prospects instead you need easier quicker fixes. The goal here is to satisfy your female fix. The problem with trying to get the hottest prospects right now is that they take more time and energy. Right now you need to build up your confidence fast. If you don’t do this, you will dwell on the past relationship you will develop a case of ‘One-itis’ and think that she was the only girl for you and now you have blown your only chance. You will begin to think that she was your only way of happiness. Then you will notice the depression settling in your mind then your body to where your getting sick and sleepy all the time. Which will affect your personal, professional, and all the other areas of your life just because of this one event. This downward spiral will continue, in some cases all the way to suicide. It is just your personal choice of where it’s going to end. It is impossible to be depressed if you are busy. Stay busy! Every time you think of her, stop whatever you are doing and switch to something else that will keep you busy! Depression is a luxury. Cave men never had the luxury of depression. If they sat around and moped all the time, do you think they would survive? The girls that you are going on all these dates with, are going to help you gain confidence and an abundant mindset. After you go on various dates with different girls this will help you realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea for you. Which will help you get rid of your case of ‘One-itis’. If you think “but I want to get back with her” then you need to do this very thing anyways and put her on ice to get her back. Putting her on ice is the only way you could ever get her back anyways at this point.
So take a minute and think of all of your needs that were not being met in your last relationship. Write them down. And now look for those qualities in your new relationship, which is going be better than your last! To get the best you need to be the best. So use this time period in your life to change for the BEST!
